The Boy Who Likes To…

When it comes to certain things in life I wish there were soem rules. If I was to make up these rules in life, the top, and first thing on my agenda would be “Kiss Hellos/Goodbyes”
Now I’m never too sure when to do this? Yes I know the obvious answer is “When you are greeting or leaving someone.” But I mean I don’t know how well you have to know someone before you start doing it?

Take the missus, Ive known her friends a while now. I’ve met them a few times and I (from memory) give them kiss hellos/goodbyes. But its been like that for a while. I can’t remember when it started, but for as long as I know I’ve given the kiss hello, maybe not so much the kiss goodbye.
Now the missus mum I’ve never been to sure about. I’ve never given her the kiss hello/goodbye as, like when meeting any new partners parents for the first few times, I’ve been a little nervous.
But now I’m not so nervous, but I haven’t started the kiss hello/goodbye. And I don’t really know if I should be doing it or how to start doing it? How is it that you start up a kiss hello/goodbye relationship?

See the problem I see lies in starting a new kiss hello/goodbye relationship. If you haven’t had one from the start, when is the best time to start one? Yes, alcohol may be a good way to start a kiss goodbye relationship, leaving a bar, full on your favourite poison, its easy to let slip a kiss goodbye, even if you didn’t mean it, everyone else in the bar is doing it.
But what if you don’t have alcohol, or the surroundings? How do you approach someone and say “Yes, I think we are in that point in our relationship that we should start a kiss hello/goodbye?” Its not the best subject to bring up.

So why bring it up?
The flip side to this argument could be, “why talk about it? Actions are better then words.” But what if the other person wasn’t ready for a kiss hello relationship. If you went in for the cheek, lips ready, and got the pull away. That could be quiet an embarrassing situation. There certanily wouldn’t be anyway of breaking the sudden air of quiet and unease.

Forget it all 
So you could just then decide to not kiss hello at all. But that could possibly affect your relationship, especially if other people around you are doing the kiss hello and you aren’t. It may make you look like you just don’t want to do it.

So it seems to me, that the kiss hello seems to be something difficult to brin in to a relationship, if it was never there. The best you can ask for is good surroundings, some alcohol and slip when saying good bye, any other time is just to uncomfortable, or suicidal in the relationship with that person.

For now, I’m ok not doing the kiss hello, I have a cold sore. Thats my excuse. But luckily we have Christmas coming up soon. I’m sure with some alcohol and good surroundings, those us who see ourselves in friendships with people who we should be really kiss helloing will ahve the perfect opportunity.
Just dont take it too far though. Then your in a whole other heap of trouble.